Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and values, plays a significant role when interwoven in the tapestry of two individuals' charts. Its influence in synastry speaks to the aesthetic and affectionate resonances between two souls, illuminating the areas of life where they might find mutual pleasure, shared appreciation, and harmony.
In the context of synastry, when one person's Venus makes contact with another's planets or points, it often denotes areas of shared values or mutual attraction. Such interactions can show where the essence of love and beauty is celebrated or challenged within the relationship. For instance, connections with personal planets like the Sun or Moon can highlight areas of emotional or egoic compatibility, while interactions with Mars can indicate the dynamics of passion and desire.
However, Venus' involvement isn't limited to mere romantic allure. Its touch in synastry can also illustrate shared tastes, mutual financial goals, or similar aesthetic appreciations, be it in art, music, or even fashion. Conversely, challenges in Venusian interactions might spotlight differences in values or what each individual finds comforting or pleasurable.
Ultimately, Venus' role in synastry is to explore and deepen the harmony between two individuals, guiding them towards mutual understanding and appreciation. Whether navigating the smooth waters of compatibility or the occasionally choppy seas of difference, Venus seeks to create a melody of connection that both parties can dance to.
Understanding Venus-Venus Aspects
Venus-Venus relationships in the synastry chart are all about how you give and receive affection. These aspects are very romantic, though they aren’t sexual. With positive Venus-Venus aspects, you tend to feel similarly about beauty, love, and social situations.
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Venus Conjunct Venus
With the Venus conjunct Venus synastry aspect, the couple has the exact same Venus sign. This aspect makes you naturally compatible. In fact, Venus conjunct Venus in synastry makes you attracted to each other right away. You see the same sorts of things as beautiful. For example, you may like the same style of clothing, the same types of restaurants, similar cities, etc. This connection makes your initial meeting a bit magical.
Generally with Venus conjunct Venus in synastry, you appreciate how the other dresses, socializes, talks, decorates, etc. The Venus conjunct Venus synastry aspect is a great placement for a romantic relationship or a friendship. In fact, it shows up quite often in the synastry chart of friends because it gives such a seamless energy to the relationship. In a romantic relationship, you may feel that you lack chemistry or sexual tension, unless you have other aspects to create this.
Regardless of the relationship, when you first meet someone with the Venus conjunct Venus synastry aspect, you might feel an innate sense of rightness to the relationship. Venus is often just how things appear, but even with this conjunction, you both have an entire chart.
Venus Trine Venus
With the Venus trine Venus synastry aspect, there is a sense of instant “like” or attraction. In fact, you probably perceive each other as likable or pretty, at least on a superficial level, when you first meet. Over time, you will come to learn that the Venus trine Venus synastry aspect does bestow a lot of natural compatibility on the relationship. The trine is natural, meaning that these qualities will be inherent in your relationship. If things get sticky in the relationship, you will always be able to go back and find common ground.
With Venus trine Venus in synastry, you express and receive love in similar ways. However, the Venus trine Venus synastry aspect doesn’t always generate a lot of chemistry. You tend to agree on most things and this can make the relationship too easy.
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Venus Sextile Venus
With the Venus sextile Venus synastry relationship, you tend to be comfortable around each other and have similar taste. You probably want similar things in love. This aspect is great for compatibility. You tend to think that the same sorts of things are beautiful and your desires regarding clothing, decor, food, taste, etc.
The Venus sextile Venus synastry aspect also means that you can learn how to give and receive affection in ways that the other person enjoys. Likewise, your partner may not completely know how to show you affection. Over time, you can even develop an intuitive sense about the kind of affection that the other person needs.
Venus Opposition Venus
With the Venus opposition Venus synastry aspect, you may feel a strong connection right away. You can develop a natural bond quite easily. For example, you may enjoy doing different things/hobbies, and you’ll have to learn how to balance your time together so that you can both get your needs filled. Typically, you consider vastly different things beautiful.
The Venus opposite Venus synastry aspect isn’t anything to worry about in a relationship. Over time, you can figure out how to balance each other. This creates a strong polarity that can make you feel like you’re two halves of a whole. You have a strong sexual attraction with this aspect, because oppositions create friction, but you will need to figure out how to give and receive love.
With the Venus opposite Venus synastry aspect, it’s essential that you communicate about what love means to you. Otherwise, you will simply miss each other and may come to think that your partner doesn’t care. You may start to feel dissatisfied with your partner in the areas of socialization, beauty, style, values, affection, and hobbies over the long term. In this relationship, you will always be different.
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Venus Square Venus
With the Venus square Venus synastry aspect, there is a lot of friction in the relationship. If you have this aspect in your synastry chart, then you will be immediately drawn to your partner. With the Venus square Venus synastry aspect, one person is usually an introvert while the other is an extrovert. Your hobbies/interests, ways of socializing, clothing, decor, sense of taste, etc. You may struggle to understand why the other person would see beauty in the things that they like.
The Venus square Venus synastry aspect can make it difficult for you to find things in common, even if you’re simply having a casual conversation. You show and receive affection in ways that make no sense to each other. This Venus square Venus synastry relationship can work, but it’s very important that you communicate and learn to adapt so that you each feel more comfortable. Remember that you both have something to teach.
Tastes and values differ between the two of you, and this can become more and more obvious as time passes. Your “styles” with regards to expressing love and affection are dissimilar in some very important ways. Your interests, values, socializing style, the clothes you wear, the way you decorate, and the ways you handle money are markedly different.
You don’t always share the same pleasures, and you don’t know how to instinctively please one another, so it takes time to learn about and appreciate one another’s style of expressing love. Your social backgrounds may be different, or your needs for a social life differ greatly, and this interferes with romance.
The Interplay of Opposites: Venus in Leo and Aquarius
Polar opposites are always the same. The hottest hot burns just as much as the coldest cold. Pure fat (glycerine) is very sweet, and the sweetest sweet obviously makes you fat.
Likewise, in Astrology, we find that what appears to be opposites are not so much different after all. They are united by a familiar theme soundtrack and interplay of motives. The Daoist yin and yang symbol visually represents this creative perpetual play and exchange of masculine and feminine energies.
When it comes to love, we have the English saying „opposites attract“. Likewise, in Astrology, people with Venus opposite each other can experience strong chemistry and mutual attraction.
These people experience each other as fundamentally opposed to each other. Interests, opinions, or hobbies may lie on opposing ends of a spectrum. Where one may choose intellectual preferences, the other may set his focus on creative occupations. They may look to find fulfillment in totally different avenues of their Life. Yet, there will be a common denominator but in differing permutations.
For example, let's explore how two people with Venus in Leo and the opposite sign, Aquarius, will approach romantic love.
Woman´s Venus in Aquarius and Man´s Venus in Leo
Here we have a sign ruled by the fiery Sun (Leo) and a sign ruled by the cold winds of Saturn (Aquarius).
Saturn is the planet of death that eventually spawns a new life. In contrast, the Sun is the Life-giving planet whose intense fire can burn the plant and organic kingdom to death.
Once again, we have two total opposites with a common theme: Life and rebirth.
Venus position with reference to the sign of Libra
A woman with Venus in Aquarius will approach a relationship with the question: „How will it nurture my creativity?“. A man with Venus in Leo will ask, „What can I gain from this relationship?“.
The unconventional Aquarius woman gainfully seeks creativity, while the proud and royal Leo man creatively seeks gain. She may ask, „Can we make music together?“ while he may think, „I´ll sing her a lullaby if she contributes to my purpose.“
She will look for a nurturing man with skills in home decoration (Aquarius is four signs away from Taurus). While he is looking for someone to support his career (Leo 10 signs away from Taurus). They need to strike a balance between the opposite realms of home life and career/ business.
He wants to move upward socially, while she wants to move freely among groups. Leo is an individualistic sign and signifies royalty. At the same time, Aquarius´orientation has a more collective focus and stands for the common man (or woman).
All in all, the polar interplay between creativity/gain, home/ career, individuality/ collectivity, freedom, and boundedness can make this a highly unusual, innovative, and original relationship.
How can they get along together?
People who have their Venus in opposite signs may have very different hobbies. They may find differing things beautiful. Therefore they must learn to appreciate their differences and communicate their views.
It is the perfect playground to surrender their likes and dislikes on the altar of non-dual love. They also need to share what love means to them since they will show affection differently.
Venus Synastry Aspects: A Summary
Here's a summary of some Venus synastry aspects and their potential impact on relationships:
| Aspect | Description |
|---|---|
| Venus Conjunct Venus | Partners express love in the same way. May be too much of the same energy, causing clashes over challenging traits. Works best if Venus signs aren’t in detriment or malefic. |
| Venus Conjunct Mars | Indicates partners progressing at a high speed. Quick to become sexual due to guaranteed sexual attraction. May get under each other’s skin. |
| Venus Conjunct Sun | Venus seeks attention & validation from Sun. |
| Venus Opposite Venus | Partners have different needs, values, desires, love styles & relationship expectations. Can lead to conflict but creates intrigue & fascination. |
| Venus Square Venus | Unresolved trauma from both parties taints the relationship. Partners may have different love languages & polarizing tastes. |
| Venus Square Mars | Hesitation & restraint regarding intimacy. |
| Venus Square Saturn | Painful aspect. Saturn feels like they’re babysitting Venus. Venus feels misunderstood & isn’t able to express themselves. |
It's important to remember that these are general interpretations and the overall dynamics of a relationship depend on the entire birth chart and the aspects between all the planets involved.
While Venus-Venus aspects can contribute to compatibility by highlighting shared values and tastes, other aspects in the synastry chart are crucial for a complete understanding of the relationship's potential and challenges. Communication, understanding, and a willingness to appreciate differences are key to navigating any relationship dynamic.
Different tastes and values can become more obvious as time passes. "Styles" with regards to expressing love and affection may be dissimilar in some very important ways. Interests, values, socializing style, the clothes you wear, the way you decorate, and the ways you handle money may be markedly different.
It takes time to learn about and appreciate one another’s style of expressing love, because partners don’t always share the same pleasures and don’t know how to instinctively please one another. Social backgrounds may be different, or needs for a social life differ greatly, and this interferes with romance.